From Scandal to Surrender: What the Coldplay Kiss Cam Taught Me About Coaching and the Gospel

My pastor said something this morning that I haven’t been able to shake.

He looked out at the congregation—at a room full of people dressed up in their Sunday best but carrying things they didn’t plan to reveal—and he invited us to do something bold. Something uncomfortable. Something holy.

“Have a private moment in public.”

He was talking about worship. About real, intimate communion with God. About the kind of vulnerable, unpolished moment where you stop worrying about who’s watching and let yourself be seen by the One who can actually do something with your mess. The idea was simple but powerful: don’t wait for the perfect private conditions to surrender. Do it here. Do it now. Let God meet you in front of witnesses.

As soon as he said it, I thought about the women in Scripture who had private moments in public places.

• The woman with the alabaster box who wept and washed Jesus’ feet with her hair.
• The woman at the well who tried to hide her shame behind theological questions.
• The woman caught in adultery who was dragged into the town square as a warning.

None of them planned for their moment with Jesus to be so… exposed. But it was. It had to be. Because their healing wasn’t just about them. Their story was going to heal others. Their moment was going to become someone else’s map.

And that only happens when you stop hiding.

We live in a world where exposure is often weaponized. Where people are filmed without consent, screenshotted without context, and dragged online for clicks and laughs. We all watched it unfold this week when a CEO and his HR executive were caught on Coldplay’s kiss cam—two people having what they thought was a private moment, in front of thousands of strangers.

In a matter of hours, the internet knew their names, their job titles, their relationship status, and what company they worked for. The narrative spiraled. The headlines exploded. Their digital footprints began to disappear. And what was left? Not transformation. Not testimony. Just shame.

That’s the difference between godly exposure and worldly exposure.

Because either way, exposure will happen. The only question is who are you standing in front of when it does?

In the Bible, the women I mentioned were exposed to truth. Exposed to grace. Exposed to healing. They were seen by Jesus—not shamed by Him. And because of that, their exposure led to breakthrough. They walked away different. They walked away whole. And they walked away with a story that couldn’t be silenced.

The Coldplay kiss cam? That was exposure, too. But it wasn’t safe. It wasn’t redemptive. It was embarrassing, chaotic, and devastating for everyone involved. It gave people something to gossip about, not grow from.

And this is why so many women steer clear of coaching.

Not because they don’t want to grow. Not because they don’t believe in change. But because the process of transformation feels too exposed.

Their fears feel private. Their insecurities feel private. Their repeated patterns and self-sabotage feel too personal to say out loud.

And yet—just like those women in Scripture—it’s often the exposure that sets you free.

I’m not Jesus. I don’t claim to be. But what I do know is that when women come into coaching spaces with me, they are met with truth, not judgment. They are challenged, not condemned. And they walk away with more clarity, more courage, and more confidence than they thought possible.

I hold space for private moments. But I also believe in witnessing them in community. Because your story, your pattern, your pain? It’s not just about you. It’s meant to liberate someone else, too.

Transformation doesn’t happen in secret. It happens when you stop hiding.

So I’ll ask you the same thing my pastor asked us this morning:

Are you ready to have a private moment in public?

To stop rehearsing the lie that “you’re fine” when you know you’re stuck? To let someone speak truth to the parts of you that are tired of performing? To do the real work of becoming?

Because here’s what I know: You'll either have your dignity of your deliverance, but you can't have both. Exposure is inevitable. But if you’re going to be exposed, let it be to someone who’s committed to your breakthrough.

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Your private moment could be the beginning of your public transformation.

Let this be that moment.